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This is How I Stay Motivated to Exercise

By Jill Jacobs

Lately, I’ve been contemplating why certain people can stay motivated to exercise regularly and eat healthily while other people’s motivation wanes easily. They exercise a week or two and just quit. They lack exercise motivation.

I see it in friends, family, and even feel a lack of motivation in myself sometimes.

I think it boils down to a couple of things.

First, if a person has a dieter’s mentality, they will always feel either ON a program or OFF a program. Adopting a LIFESTYLE mentality would make a huge difference in this group. If you know you are committed to something for the long haul, you are not likely to give up when you aren’t performing perfectly. (I mean, perfection is a myth anyway!)

Take parenting for example. What if the first time you make a mistake with your new baby, toddler, or teen, you just threw in the towel and gave up? Never! That’s not how it works when you have a long-term commitment to something. You’d never give up on parenting your child and just hand them over to someone else to raise because of a misstep in your parenting!

The same goes for our health. Taking ownership and having a lifestyle mentality will go a long way towards staying motivated. When you make the switch to the lifestyle mentality, you become committed for the long haul. (If the dieter’s mentality is a struggle for you, having a coach and some type of accountability system in place are 2 ways to overcome this type of thinking.)

The second reason I think people quit is not having a solid purpose for exercising. Purpose allows you to tap into your inner motivation which is the kind of motivation that stands the test of time! Digging deep is how you ultimately find lasting motivation.

I’d like to share a few of my reasons (or my deeper purposes) for exercising, hence how I stay motivated and on track. I share these with the hope that something here will resonate with you. 🙂

5 Reasons I Stay Motivated to Exercise:

1. I’m training for the sport called life. I need to feel good and be strong to be the best mom I can be. Motherhood requires athleticism. Have you ever lugged around a toddler and grocery bags at the same time while having to squat down to get the keys you just dropped on the ground? Have you ever played tag with your kids? Sprinted against your daughter? Played football with your son? Exercise allows me to stay in shape so I can enjoy life to its fullest!

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2. I value my health and the health of my family. I want to avoid certain diseases that run in my family. I want to be healthy in my old age. I want to pass a legacy of healthy living to my sons and their future families.

When I value health, my example trickles down to the entire family. My sons make sure to do their pull-ups every day without being prompted. They just want to! (Daily pull-ups was their idea back in the fall of last year. I promise I’m not being a drill sergeant! ha!) My sons ask me questions like, “What’s my protein going to be for dinner?” 🙂 They’ve learned balance around food, and when they make poor choices, they are able to recognize that their bodies feel different (i.e. not good, sluggish, nauseous). I know I didn’t have that type of awareness as a child!

Raising my kids to value health is important to me, and I must lead by example not just words.

3. I value hard work, strength, dedication, and meeting goals. Outer strength begets inner strength. I can tell you this because I’ve witnessed it in myself and so many other women. Putting in the hard work, discipline, and dedication to meet a strength, endurance, non-appearance-based goal will not only make you stronger on the outside; you will be stronger on the inside!

You do not have to be hardcore, “I train, eat, sleep, repeat,” to be consistent and dedicated. Set up some minimum standards for yourself. This could be something like never missing a Monday workout, working out 4 times per weeks minimum, or making sure to move in some way (even leisure walking) daily. This will build healthy habits and you will start to feel strong and confident! There’s nothing more motivating than getting a few “wins” under your belt.

4. My body is a temple of the Holy Spirit. What I do with my body, what I put into my body, and how I treat my body MATTERS. I truly believe that God wants both our hearts AND our bodies to be used for His glory. Not one or the other; BOTH. My body is a gift. I need to be a good steward with this gift, treat it well, nourish it, and avoid abusing it.

5. I love endorphins! Heavy strength training is one sure-fire way that I use to feel better and more energized.  This is because of the endorphin production that comes with heavy lifting.  It makes me feel happy and alive. Even when I dread the workout and am completely unmotivated, within a few of minutes of starting my workout, I’m already feeling so much better. And then when I hit a PR, I’m on top of the world, smiling, confident, and feeling accomplished. Plus, when I have those endorphins flowing through my body, my husband is completely safe from harm. 😉

I’ve listed several reasons why I exercise. These reasons keep me motivated to stick with it for the long haul! Before I sign off, though, I’d like to leave you with a list of a few things that are NOT reasons I’m motivated to exercise:

  • I don’t exercise to be skinny.
  • I don’t exercise to achieve a certain number on the scale.
  • I don’t exercise to punish myself for eating “bad.”
  • I don’t exercise in order to earn food.
  • I don’t exercise to wear a certain size of jeans.
  • I don’t exercise to be a hardcore, “no excuses” #fitmom. 
  • And most of all, I don’t exercise because I hate my body. I do it because I love and appreciate my body and all that it does for me!

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One thing is certain, maintaining exercise motivation is more difficult when you don’t enjoy the type of exercise that you do. Finding a way to move your body in a way that you LOVE and enjoy is so important! My love is for strength training, preferably with kettlebells (like the workouts found here). I keep my workouts short and intense. This way, they don’t take my day away from me AND they are still effective!

What are some of the reasons YOU exercise? How do you maintain exercise motivation? Or do you? I’d love to know! Comment below and let me know. 🙂

Oh, and join my 14-day e-course called Motivation Makeover for some additional support!

 xo ~Jill

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5 Ways to Stay on Track During Vacation

Now that it’s summer break in Georgia (and many places), I’m hearing a lot of buzz from friends, email subscribers, and clients about going on vacation. Woot woot! This is such a fun time of year when we can travel more and enjoy God’s beauty.

When traveling, it’s easy to throw out all things healthy and find ourselves indulging on ALL.THE.FOOD in sight. Vacation mode is a common phenomenon.

And I get it. It’s fun to get away, unwind, eat vacation treats, and relax a little. I’m certainly not against relaxing the standard a bit on vacation. I do believe, however, that there is a way to do it in moderation and maintain your physique along the way! Wanna know how to stay on track during vacation?

Here are 5 ways to stay on track during vacation:

  • Fit in exercise. Most hotels and condominiums have gyms. Plan a few workouts in advance (subscribe to my newsletter at the bottom of this post or HERE for some free workouts included in my Lean Lifestyle Guide!).  You can use dumbbells or just bodyweight.

If there is no gym, get creative. My husband, David, and I have worked out in our hotel room, at the playground with our kids, and as seen below, on the beach! This quick workout helps us stay on track during vacation by pushing our bodies into fat burning mode!

Beach Sprints!

Beach Sprints!

If your kids are small, ask friends or family to watch them for you while you go workout for 30 minutes or take them along for a playground workout! They are watching and learning. If they see you workout, they will learn to prioritize health and fitness!

Be accountable with your exercise! Find a friend, relative, spouse, or group of like-minded women that you can check in with. This will help you stay committed and accountable to your workouts and healthy lifestyle!

  • Plan a menu. This takes some forethought. Plan for a few meals in your hotel or condo, snacks for on the road and during your trip, and even for eating out. Call ahead and ask for a small refrigerator to be delivered to your room so you can keep cold items.

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Chocolate Banana Protein Shake

For the room, I like to bring breakfast foods and snacks. I typically will take the ingredients to make protein shakes, pre-boiled eggs, eggs to cook for breakfast if I have a kitchen, beef jerky, nuts, Greek yogurt, fruit, and cut up veggies. I take lettuce, deli meat, cheese, and avocado to make lettuce wraps for lunch.

 

I’ve written about eating out before here. You can certainly make good choices and only indulge when it’s something you really, really want and it native to where you are vacationing.

This is a sample of how I order food out. This is Panang chicken. Notice I chose a meal that serves the carb (rice) on the side rather than mixed into the dish. That way I can control my intake a little better. This dish has chicken, veggies, coconut milk, and spices. So delish! So healthy!

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Panang Curry Chicken… Yum!

  • Practice moderation.  My personal practice is to eat with the same healthy guidelines 365 days/year, indulging only when it’s something I really want. With indulgent foods, I take a few sample bites, enjoy, and move on. 🙂 Nothing is really off limits, but I know how my body feels when I eat tons of high fat, high sugar, and fried foods. It feels terrible. I’d rather not feel terrible any day, much less on vacation when I’m wanting to relax and enjoy! So I stick with my nutritional commitments (protein at every meal and snack, high produce intake, 2-3 servings of healthy fat, carbs based on my workouts/body needs) when I’m at home AND when I’m on vacation.camelbak
  • Drink your water. Often, this habit gets completely ditched on vacation. 🙁 With all the activity and the summer sun, you will need to pay special attention to staying hydrated. It will help your body function optimally. Dehydration can make you feel hungry even when you aren’t. Many times when you think you’re hungry, drinking up will stave off a trip to the snack bag! Carry a water bottle with you everywhere, and sip on it all day.

Here is my favorite CamelBak water bottle. It doesn’t spill because of the jet valve and it locks!

  • Take advantage of leisure walking. Some of the best, most beautiful, and most memorable leisure walks I’ve been on have been on vacation! I mean, can you beat watching the sunrise on the east coast?!?!
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Can’t beat this view!

There are so many benefits to leisure walking (you can read more here). The major benefit to your health is that it lowers cortisol which can equal fat loss and fewer cravings. There is no downside to leisure walking! It’s fun AND beneficial. 🙂

I hope you have a fabulous summer! I’d love for you to share with me some ways YOU stay on track during vacation. Come on over to my facebook page and let me know!

Love,

Jill <3


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TWENTY Delicious AND Healthy Snacks for a Lean Lifestyle

I’m often told by clients and readers that they struggle to eat more frequently. Many times, we wait until we’re famished before grabbing a bite and end up making an unhealthy choice. Eating frequently can ward off a bad decision or a binge. The typical problem I hear from people, however, is that they can’t think of decent, protein-filled healthy snacks to fill in between meals. Many simply get bored with eating the same things over and over and over again.

I get it! I’m totally the same way.

To help you out, I’ve put together this extensive list of TWENTY delicious snacks to mix things up a bit from day-to-day. I’m sure you can find a few things on the list to add to your snack rotation.

20 Delicious and Healthy Snacks for a Lean Lifestyle

 

  • Sliced turkey in romaine lettuce rollups with a little mustard
  • Sliced deli meat rolled with sliced avocado inside
  • High protein (low-fat/carb), unsweetened Greek plain yogurt (options: add cocoa and stevia, add PB2 and stevia, add a spoonful or 2 of canned pumpkin with cinnamon and stevia, add a trickle of trail mix, add 1/2 scoop protein powder, sweeten with stevia and add fresh berries on top)
  • Biotrust Protein Cookies

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  • Hard boiled eggs and apple, pear, berries, or grapefruit
  • Krave Bars Seriously- the cookie dough AND baked apple pie are to die for!!
  • celery with almond or other nut butter
  • 1/4 cup nuts and an apple, pear, berries, or grapefruit

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  • Homemade protein bar
  • Protein shake – either with water only in a shaker bottle or blended with ice for a healthy “milk” shake
  • Can or packet of tuna or smoked salmon – mix in mustard with it with an apple or a hard boiled egg

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  • ANY left over meal (already cooked chicken, lean pork, other leftover meat)
  • Jerky
  • Keep a baggie of assorted raw veggies on hand for any time
  • Hard boiled egg stuffed with tuna – very filling!
  • Rotisserie chicken – fast food at the grocery store! Combine with some veggies or berries.
  • Baked egg muffins (microwave for a quick snack)
  • 3-6 boiled egg whites with 1/2 avocado slices, 1/2 cup of olive, or 1/4 cup raw nuts (add a 1/2 grapefruit as well if you desire)
  • 1/2 avocado and diced chicken with salsa made into guacamole chicken salad
  • Cottage cheese with apple, berries, pear, grapefruit, or 1/4 cup nuts

What would YOU add to this list? Let me know in the comments! We are all in this lifestyle thing together and can learn from each other!

xo -Jill

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My Top 10 Tips for Navigating Social Events and Eating Out Without Gaining a Single Pound

Today’s culture involves eating outside the home often. Whether it’s dinner out with friends on the weekend, attending a holiday party or wedding reception, or simply grabbing lunch on your lunch hour with co-workers, eating out is inevitable. This can be a stressful aspect of living a “lean and healthy lifestyle” but it doesn’t have to be!

Good news- Eating out doesn’t have to increase your waistline! There are many ways you can make eating out work for your goals. 🙂 I understand that it’s hard to let go of the control that we have when eating in where we know each and every ingredient, but if you follow just a few simple guidelines, your social life won’t have to suffer!

Here are my top 10 tips for navigating a social event and eating out without gaining a single pound:

 

  • Do your homework – When you know ahead of time where you will be eating, take a couple of minutes to check out the menu online. Most restaurants have their menu items listed out on their website. Walking in an establishment with a plan is the best offense.
  • Skip the freebies – Many restaurants bring out a complimentary loaf of bread with butter, chips and salsa, or the like. Say “No, thank you.” Ask your server to bring out raw veggies to munch on if you really need something before your entrée arrives. Don’t place unnecessary temptation right in front of you! If you’re in a situation where this isn’t possible, focus on chatting and socializing before your meal arrives.
  • Avoid drinking your calories – Ask for water to drink. If you want a little flavor, add lemon, lime, or even a squeeze of orange to your water. Avoid soda, booze, and other high-calorie drinks. They add up quickly! If you decide to have alcohol, limit yourself to 2 drinks and avoid starches and fats at that meal. Alcohol is best consumed with lean meat and fibrous veggies.
  • Choose lean meat – Almost every restaurant has an option for a lean cut of meat. It may be a grilled chicken breast, boiled shrimp, baked or broiled fish, or even sashimi if you’re feeling adventurous! Always steer clear of anything fried.

    This is a “chicken sandwich” – hold the bun, please.” 🙂

  • Be choosy with your side items – Instead of the normal baked potato, rice, or fries, order steamed broccoli, mixed veggies, roasted asparagus, a side salad, or grilled zucchini and squash. There are almost always healthy side items available.
  • Remember the rule: “Fat over carbs” – Examples of this strategy
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    When eating Thai food, I skip the rice.

    are guacamole salad over rice and beans, bacon and boiled egg on your salad over croutons and bread, meat with cheese over meat on a bun, grilled chicken salad over grilled chicken sandwich, and veggies sautéed in olive oil over a baked potato. If you’re attending a party and a meat and cheese tray and mini sandwich tray are both being served, choose the meat and cheese even though the meat on these trays tend to be higher in fat (i.e. salami).

  • Order all sauces on the side when you can – Sauces and dressings can completely ruin a fat-loss friendly meal turning it into a fat-storing meal. Ordering sauces and dressings on the side allow YOU to be in control of how much you eat, if any. When ordering salad dressing, the best choice would be an oil and vinegar based dressing.
  • Stick to entrées – Appetizers and desserts add extra calories and are rarely fat-loss friendly choices. When you do order an appetizer, choose something like shrimp cocktail. Desserts are best saved for off-plan, cheat meals.
  • Watch your portion sizes – Most restaurant portions are entirely too large for one person. Split your meal in half and take it home or share it with your friend.
  • Keep good company – It’s important to surround yourself with people who share your values in all aspects of life. When you eat out, take along a friend or your spouse who is supportive of your healthy lifestyle. With time and practice, it becomes easier to eat for your fat loss goals even when those around you order things that aren’t on your plan. When you begin trying to change your habits, however, it’s important to seek out support from like-minded friends or even a coach that can cheer you on and answer all of your questions about changing your habits and lifestyle (see the bottom of this post for my top recommendations for coaching services).

There you have it. My top 10 strategies that I personally use when eating out.

Many believe that lean, fit people prep all their food ahead of time, portion it out for the week, and never dine out or even eat enjoyable, flavorful food. That is simply not true. It’s definitely possible to eat out, socialize, and enjoy food while eating for fat loss!

Trust me… I LOVE food and love to eat. I enjoy EVERY bite I put in my mouth. 😀

Head over to my facebook page and let me know YOUR favorite fat-loss friendly restaurant or a rule of thumb you use to stay on track while eating out!

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My 8 Week Progress Report for #OperationRefocus

I just finished week #8 of working with my coach, Roman. Below is my current progress check in!

  • My Plan general overview from coach Roman: My November plan is still in play until further notice. I switched from the “insulin reset” phase to a “feast and fast” phase 3 weeks ago (more details below). My macros changed up a bit (higher carbs, slightly less fat than the first phase, and protein has increased).

The newest change brought a feasting period for 1 day each week. What that means is I can eat anything I want (preferably higher carbohydrates) beginning at lunch time, but I’m supposed to stop before I feel stuffed. I posted what I ate in the “my successes” section.

On the flip side of the “feasting period” is a FULL fasting day. :/

For the first 2 weeks of this plan, I feasted on Saturday and fasted beginning Saturday night until Monday morning at breakfast. The third week I adjusted my feasting period to coincide with Thanksgiving of course! 🙂

I’m working out a total of 6 days – 3 strength, 1 bodyweight circuit, and 2 cardio/HIIT style workouts. The style of workout changed from traditional strength training to escalating density training. This increases work volume and testosterone. All of this is great for muscle building and for fat loss!

  • My Successes: I’m very consistent with my workouts. As a matter of fact, I’ve only missed 1 workout in the entire 8 weeks. There have been a few times that I shortened a couple of circuits or substituted exercises at a hotel gym, but my consistency had been ON POINT. I continue to increase my weights in the strength workouts. My goals of getting stronger overall and stronger with my pull ups are definitely coming along!

I fully succeeded with my feast days. It wasn’t hard to do at all. Ha! You may wonder what I ate?!?

Well- The first week I had a normal breakfast for me, fajita chicken salad with chips and salsa, 3 slices of pizza for dinner followed by a donut and a package of Justin’s organic peanut butter cups. Yum! I had no GI issues from this. CELEBRATE!

The 2nd week I had IHOP for lunch (1/2 pancakes and 1/2 French toast with syrup plus eggs and bacon) then a normal dinner of grilled chicken and vegetables. For dessert I had 2 mini candy bars from my boys’ Halloween candy and a slice of creamy peanut butter pie from my favorite place. The IHOP meal gave me a tummy ache. 🙁

Then the 3rd week was Thanksgiving, so I just enjoyed all the plentiful food my family had available! It was so delicious, but I did get a slight tummy ache from the feast. BOO!

  • My Struggles: My biggest struggle over the last few weeks has definitely been the fasting period. With that said, I’ve made it all three times and ultimately felt fine. It’s gotten easier each week which is encouraging. During my fast, I’m allowed to have water, black coffee, and green tea. Once, I broke down and had a diet limeade to give my belly something to do besides talk to me. 😉 Basically, I feel physical hunger only a few times (under 5) during the fast. I ride the “hunger wave” and then it subsides. Of course the growling stomach hits on Sunday right in the middle of Bible class just in time to embarrass me! Lol. The good news is that I’ve woken up each day after my fast and been full of energy to crush my workout before breaking my fast. That part amazes me! I totally thought I’d struggle through, but no (to my pleasant surprise!).

 

  • My Outcomes so far:

Mentally, I’m stronger, more confident, balanced yet focused. Physically, I’m stronger too!

As for my overall numbers – I’ve lost…

  •  in bodyweight – 3 pounds
  •  in body fat – just over 1%
  •  in inches – 1″ from below my belly button, 3/4″ from my waist, and about 1/4-1/2 of an inch from both my thigh and upper arm, no inches lost in the other areas I measured (rib cage, hips)

The numbers haven’t changed from week 5, but I can see a difference in my photos. Let’s be honest though, I enjoyed my Thanksgiving to the fullest, so remaining steady is a great thing! I’m a day or 2 away from “shark week” so honestly, it’s not the best time to weigh and measure. 😉

Anyway, numberwise, my body is being a bit stubborn on me. I’m excited to get my next phase any day now and see the tweaks made to deal with this stubbornness. If my weight was staying the same and my body fat was decreasing, there would be no issue. That would actually be a great sign of body recomposition! For now, I’m holding steady which I’m ok with. I’m realizing that where I am right now is exactly where my body is perfectly HAPPY. To get beyond this point in the past, it took drastic measures that I’m not willing to do this go around. If coach Roman has a way to move me beyond this point without my losing hair, losing my period, and becoming an emotional wreck, then I welcome it. If not, I’m just fine where I’m at continue my pursuit of strength and meeting goals!

That’s it for now… I will post again in few weeks and letcha know what changes I’m implementing!

Post in the comments (or in the linked facebook post) to let me know what goals you are working on! I’d love to hear from you and cheer you on!!!

xo ~Jill

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How to Get Your Priorities Straight Once and For All

Meet my friend, Maryalice. 🙂

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Maryalice Goldsmith, Founder of InsideOut Wellness

Maryalice, over the past couple of years, has become a great friend of mine. We me in Winston-Salem, NC at a photo shoot for fitness professionals that was hosted by our mutual business coach, Jill Coleman.  I was immediately drawn to Maryalice’s lively personality and energetic presence. Plus, she’s hilarious and makes me laugh out loud constantly when we are together-  and who doesn’t love laughter?!? It’s healing for the soul! We had a fun weekend getting to know each other and have been friends ever since!

 

Maryalice is a leader when it comes to working with clients to lower stress, set priorities in order, and pursue a fulfilled life! This is a journey she knows very well herself (as you will read below), so she’s the perfect person to offer her perspective on how to go about pursuing your own purpose. Maryalice a person who sets out to help others every single day!

 

I was chatting with Maryalice recently, and she mentioned that she had a “Finding Your Purpose” program she’d been using with her own clients. This was an exciting revelation since I’m often asked by busy women about how to stay motivated and how to keep health and fitness a priority.   I asked Maryalice if she’d make an appearance on my blog to share some ideas about how she navigated this journey and offer you some tips on getting started with setting priorities in line with your goals and purpose!

 

Enjoy this journey with Maryalice… 🙂

Hey everyone, I am thrilled to be here on Jill’s blog and even more excited to share a bit about my journey. So thank you for being here!

A few years ago I had one of those revelations, you know the kind that people talk about that changes their whole life…puts things into perspective – that kind. But, unlike many people who have those ‘A-HA’ moments, mine was more of an ‘A-HA’ journey.

I think many of you can relate to those times in your life when you are driving along and you think ‘There must be something more ~ this can’t be it!’ I have to tell you while having these thoughts there was no way I wanted to share it with anyone. I actually felt a bit guilty as I had a pretty awesome life. I was married to my high school sweetheart for 16-years, we had 3-awesome boys, and at the time a beautiful fur-baby (our Yellow-Lab – Abby, now we have 2!). Life was good and there was no way I should be feeling sorry for myself and looking for more. But, in all honestly, I was.

I had this ‘Ho-Hum’ feeling. Every day seemed the same and in one word I was bored. It sounds ridiculous now, but at that time it was what it was. I was a stay-at-home mom, a dream of my husband and mine and I loved being a mom for my boys, there is no greater blessing. I think that is why I was even more dumbfounded. Here I had anything I could have ever wanted and still wasn’t satisfied, I wasn’t 100% happy. This was a struggle because I was ashamed.

Then the journey began…

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One day a friend of mine introduced me to this book called the Rhythm of Life by Matthew Kelly. I hadn’t read a book in I don’t know how long so I was excited to have a book that came highly recommended. I began to read this book and I was having those ‘A-HA’ moments non-stop! There was so much he was speaking about that was resonating.

  • Lacking focus
  • Feeling bored with life
  • Lacking energy – depression and frustration
  • The yearning for something more.

He spoke about how many of us struggle with lack of direction and focus…(Hello – I can so relate!) how we allow ourselves to get caught up in the chaos of life without taking the time to touch base with our soul. We let stress, anxiety, and frustration to build up and we block ourselves from true happiness.

I decided that I was not going to take these ‘A-HA’ moments and do nothing with them – I was going to start my process ~ my journey inward. I began to meditate every morning – I would wake before the entire house and I would sit in complete stillness. This was REALLY hard to get used to, but once I did, it became a highlight of my day. I would then journal and express what was on my heart and mind.

4-Key elements we all need to focus on…

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There were 4-key elements I would address at the end of my journal entry – how was I going to address my spiritual, intellectual, emotional, and physical needs of that day? I would dedicate part of my day to address these 4-area’s because in that I was honoring my soul. When we honor our soul ~ when we give our soul a voice we are then able to be the very best version of ourselves, we are able to thrive.

This journey was an amazing experience. It made me realize that I wasn’t lacking in anything except the connection to myself. I had lost myself. I was undefined – lacking focus, energy, and my purpose. I had entrenched myself in my role of a wife and a mother, which is a great thing, but as the kids got older and needed me less I became more and more lost.

It takes more than an ‘A-HA’ moment to reveal your true purpose!

Self-discovery of any kind takes time and commitment. The more I practiced stillness the better I got at it. The more I addressed my physical, spiritual, emotional, and intellectual needs the more I discovered who I was, what I loved, who inspired me, and who I inspired. I began to live my life with purpose and everything changed – Everything!

I remember waiting for my youngest son to come home after school one day, he was 8-years old at the time. I saw the bus come through the neighborhood, so I jumped up to meet him outside. He came running up the hill to our house and I said: “Hey buddy, how was your day!?” He looked up at me with a quizzical stare and simply said: “Why are you so happy!?

Now someone might have taken offense to this, but for me, it was so affirming. I was not happy the way I was living. I wasn’t miserable either but there is a difference between a person who is grateful and aware and one who is always in search of something more. When you look at someone who is lost and confused versus someone who is confidently clear about his or her life – there is a HUGE difference. This was a profound moment for me. I knew I had revealed my purpose through my practice and the work I had put in. Even more importantly, I knew just how important it was to live with purpose and how it can have a profound impact on one’s life and the people in it.

It doesn’t take a miracle, just respecting your process…

There is no miracle here, by any means. Like I said, there was no one ‘A-HA’ moment that changed my life forever, there is a process and a journey that led me back to me. This process has given me clarity, direction, inspiration, and passion for living my best life yet. If it weren’t for this process I wouldn’t be typing this right now. It allowed me to take risks to design the life of my dreams from the inside out!

I am a believer that when you discover or learn something it is our obligation to share it with as many people as we possibly can. In fact, I have discovered that one of my main reasons I am on this earth is to help others – to bring people to a better understanding of themselves. Doesn’t necessarily matter how I do that, but I know that when I am doing it, I get fired up in a really good way! I am living with purpose. Are you living with purpose?

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There is no need to rush your process. This is your journey and should be respected as such.

People who live with purpose are more focused, grateful, happy, and successful. Their success comes from, not so much in what they are doing but more from the fact that no matter what it is they do, they do it well. They are fulfilled and they embrace life 100%. Their priorities are in order and they go to great lengths to address them daily. They know themselves to the core and they live their life based on their values and morals. They are ‘doers’, risk takers, and they live a passionate life. We all deserve that!

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In Health & Fitness,
Maryalice