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5 Lessons Learned After My Birthday Crisis

By Jill Jacobs

As I get older, my birthday becomes more of a time of reflection than celebration. Don’t get me wrong, I like to be pampered a little, but I find I reflect more on my birthday than when a new year rolls around.

Today on my 42nd birthday, I think about where I’m at in my life as a wife, a mom, a friend, a relative, a business owner and coach, and most importantly as a follower of Christ. I think about past goals, where I’m at with those, and where I want to go in the future.

I also reflect on lessons learned in the last year and how I can use them to grow and learn. This is what I want to share with you in this post because I learned so much in the last year!

Last year, literally ON my birthday, I was faced with a crisis. I was at the beach to enjoy a wedding and time with friends, but I found myself on the phone discussing my “situation” with an attorney. Not how I wanted to start our summer break.

What happened was this: I was basically forced to re-brand due to a trademark issue with the name I was using on my old website and on social media. Basically, I had to start over from scratch to rebuild my website, membership site, facebook page, Instagram account, and youtube channel.

My social media accounts, particularly facebook and Instagram, had thousands of followers that were completely lost when this company accused me of trademark infringement. My accounts were shut down without warning, and I wasn’t allowed to defend myself to them or simply change my name. I had to start completely over. It was a nightmare in progress. It took many, many woman hours, a few tears of frustration, but most of all, it took me sucking it up, putting my big girl panties on, and going deep inside myself to find determination and tenacity. I learned quite a bit going through this crisis and want to share my insights with you with hopes you’ll find them helpful. 🙂

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Here are 5 lessons I learned from this tough time:

  • Be tenacious, determined, and persistent. It’s tempting when life throws punches to just give up. In order to succeed, however, we have to be diligent, keep our goals in front of us, and resolve to move forward. It will actually make us stronger than before!
  • Choose to lean into the struggle rather than wallow in victimhood or self-pity. Another temptation when times are difficult is to play the role of the victim. For whatever reason, we humans tend to love this role. We get sympathy from others who shout with us, “I can’t believe you were treated so poorly!” Some people thrive on that sympathy and being the victim, but may I suggest an alternative. It feels so good to just lean into the struggle and take action! Action takers are people who prefer to move forward instead of dwell in the past.
  • Be willing to change and roll with the punches. The FEAR of change is much, much worse than the change itself! Plunge in, move with it, and join the dance. Change can be very hard and push our emotional limits, but the growth that occurs with change can be a positive and empowering! I’m choosing to be positive and empowered by this crisis. 🙂
  • Look for the silver lining. To be honest, this time last year I wasn’t feeling my brand anymore and had strongly considered re-branding. I looked at how much work it would take and resisted. My silver lining in this situation was that I was forced to do what I *really* wanted to do in the first place! Funny how that worked out. 😉
  • Practice gratitude. This tool has been a game-changer in my life. As humans, we all know how easy it is to get caught up in negativity, blaming, and other unflattering behaviors. That’s why I like having a few tools in my back pocket when these negative things come my way! Gratitude is a tool that has helped me when things don’t go “my way” or when negative things happen. Gratitude gives us all the ability to find the good in any situation and see the positive aspects in other people even when they mistreat us.
My 42nd Birthday :)

My 42nd birthday – headed to a family reunion 🙂

There you have it…. my top lessons learned from this past year! Having a proper perspective, I was able to change a major crisis for me personally and my business into something positive. I look forward to this coming year and what it has in store. 🙂

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xo -Jill