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On Turning Forty

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Turning forty.  Age is just a number.

Today marks a day for me that most people seem to dread; I’m turning forty. I haven’t dreaded it at all. I feel better than I’ve ever felt. I’m more fit than I’ve ever been. I don’t plan for that to change because of a silly number! I can only hope that you, no matter your age, don’t hold back because you think it’s too late to get fit…IT’S NEVER TOO LATE! I didn’t start until I was 36 years old. There are many, many women older than me who are SUPER FIT and don’t let a number stop them! Join the group of STRONG women who are all equally as busy as you are. We are all given the SAME 24 hours each day. Each of us decides what’s important enough to spend those hours doing. Carve out a “weeee bit” of time for yourself!

As I embark on a new decade, I want to share 40 reflections and lessons I’ve learned over the last few years…

  • My thirties have been my best decade yet. I plan for my forties to be EVEN BETTER!!! Let’s get this party started! I celebrate turning forty!
  • A number doesn’t define what I can or can not do.
  • When I was 30 (or 20 or 15 for that matter), I couldn’t do one pull-up. At age 40, I can do pull ups for reps and even weighted pull ups with birthday balloons attached!
  • When I was 30, I didn’t know what “for reps” meant. Now I do. 😉
  • There are a number of things I can do besides pull-ups that my 30-year-old self couldn’t have imagined my 40-year-old self doing…. lots of strict push ups, heavy military presses, heavy squats, running sprints, working on flexibility and stretching (that’s never been my strong point which is WHY I need to keep working on it!), and much, much more!
  • One thing I can do is snatch heavy kettlebells. Today, on the morning of my 40th birthday, I snatched a 40 pound kettlebell for 40 reps. Woot woot!! That’s a PR for me!
  • My body is worth honoring through my lifestyle. I’ve been given only one body to take care of. If I want to be able to live and serve others to the fullest capacity, I must take care of my body.
  • When I started making changes, I wanted to make sure I was a mom who was able to get down on the floor and play with my kids. I wanted to be able to run around at the park without feeling tired or out of breath. Mission accomplished! Now, I look MANY years down the road and want to say the same when I’m a grandma (Did I just say that??!!??).
  • Fitness is based on “lifestyle choices” not based on how old you are. I started my fitness journey at age 36….only 4 years ago.
  • My fitness journey has evolved. What I do and how I do it has changed over the last 4 years. I expect it to continue to change. Change is GOOD! (S/O to my friend, Brandi, who got me motivated to start 4 years ago! S/O to all of my coaches and mentors for all of their inspiration and guidance over the last couple of years!)
  • I can give myself the gift of health by eating good food and exercising. This is NOT selfish. It makes me a better wife and mom and sets the right example for my children!
  • With that said, I don’t have hours a day to do cardio, so I do my best to workout in the most efficient way possible. My goal: the least amount of effort for the maximum amount of results. Finding that place has been great!
  • It’s fine that I don’t have hours to do cardio. Running actually hurts my knees, makes me hungry, and doesn’t change the shape of my body at all.
  • Once you start working out, it’s hard to NOT workout. It becomes a habit just like taking a shower or brushing your teeth.
  • Being strong and healthy is different from skinny.
  • No matter how hard I workout, the excess skin from having babies will always be there. It’s a side effect from pregnancy that’s very much worth having!
  • Making this change for me was a CONSCIOUS choice. Lasting change doesn’t happen by accident.
  • Just start. Start somewhere, anywhere. If you don’t know where to start, ask for help.
  • There is nothing wrong with asking for help. No matter how much you know, there is always someone who knows more.
  • Accountability at some level is helpful for me and for most people.
  • Finding sustainable ways of eating and exercising are important. If I can’t see myself doing what I do in 5 years from now, then I need to stop. It won’t last anyway.
  • Body change victories go WAY BEYOND the scale. The scale is a liar.
  • Fat loss foods don’t have to be boring.
  • Although many people believe I deprive myself by eating healthy, they are wrong. Every morsel of food I put in my mouth is DELISH!
  • If I can’t eat a food responsibly, I HAVE to keep it out of my house! (ahem…almond butter!)
  • Life is about finding balance in all things…even in the way that I eat. I’m not a perfect eater 100% of the time.
  • Fat loss (body re-composition – more muscle, less fat, higher metabolism – WOOT!) and weight loss (less fat, less muscle, LOWER metabolism – YIKES!) are NOT the same things! Fat loss comes from proper nutrition and lifting heavy weights. Heavy weights don’t make women bulky. Body fat makes a woman bulky (See my “before” photo below taken before I knew that I needed to lift heavy!)
  • Sleep, recovery, and stress relief are just as important as diet and exercise.
  • MINDSET is the KEY to change.
  • Don’t complain. Take action and make changes.
  • Overcome fear and live out your dreams.
  • Failure is important for success. Henry Ford once said, “Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again. This time, more intelligently.”
  • Negative self-talk does me NO GOOD! I continue to practice self-compassion, throwing myself a bone, and giving myself (and others) the benefit of the doubt.
  • Be me. I’m one-of-a-kind and am the only person on this earth that has my exact experiences. What I offer the world is TRULY unique to me!
  • Collaboration is always better than competition – in business and in life in general. There is enough success to go around for everyone! (S/O to 2 or my mentors Jill Coleman and Jillian Teta for those wise words!)
  • Getting out of my comfort zone is truly where the magic happens.
  • I’m doing my best to let go of what other people think. Old habits die hard! (Work in progress on this one!)
  • Being kind is more important than being right.
  • Dreaming BIG is important.
  • Having gratitude is MORE important!
Before turning forty

Lifting heavy doesn’t make a woman bulky. Having this added layer of body fat makes a woman bulky. Case in point….

 

I want to share with you what I looked like at age 36….25 pounds heavier than I am right now. Seeing pictures like the one to the right and the one below is what made me DETERMINED to make a change for the better. I wanted to look better and FEEL better! Now I do! 🙂 I only hope that I can inspire just ONE busy mom to make a change for the better. You’re worth it! Find a mentor if you don’t want to go at it alone. The results of making a positive lifestyle change include confidence, empowerment, strength, motivation beyond what you can imagine, and GAINING HEALTH! If you want it, start today. Pick one new thing to change, and JUST DO IT! 🙂 Make the choice.

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Just before I MADE A CHOICE to start making a change

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This is how I looked at 40… Bout to run hill sprints! 🙂

I choose to make the rest of my life, the best of my life. ~Louise Hay

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